Shame and Self Pity
It hit home yesterday as I sat in a doctor’s office because of back spasms and had to say my weight out loud how ashamed I am of myself because of my weight. I’ve been having back problems in the past couple of years and have always attributed them to poor posture or most recently bad posture on the elipical machine, but in reality I probably wouldn’t have as many issues if I didn’t carry so much extra weight on my body…d(90% of my weight is in the middle
Yesterday I had a bit of pity party for myself because of my back spasms, but this morning I once again accept that I’ve gotten myself into this situation because of the way I use food to comfort myself when any negative emotion arises…I don’t binge when I’m at peace or feeling good about life or myself, but when negative or stressed.
So, for now I just need to keep trying.
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You are right, you just need to keep trying. It is so easy to give in and eat those comfort foods. Let’s take the higher road and do the best we can. I wish you the best and hope your back feels better soon.
Good for you - I think it’s important to admit to ourselves how we play a big role in where we are with our weight. My advice is don’t dwell on it. Recognize it (as you have), accept it, and modifiy your behavior as you need to in order to improve YOUR future!!
A friend of mine once said we need to “own” things in our lives - take responsibility for them. We were talking about “owning our sexy” at the time - but it’s the same principle I think.
Good luck to you!!
Thin people have back problems too. It’s too easy to blame weight for it.
Bravo to you for realizing that shame is a wasted emotion. We are who we are, no matter what our size and shape is.
Comfort food doesn’t comfort. The biggest pleasure in comfort food in the anticipation of it and maybe the first 3 bites. The consequences (feeling bloated, stuffed, guilt feelings) are worst than the few moments of pleasure. Next time you are tempted to use comfort food to soothe, think about the last time….what were the consequences and are you willing to put yourself through it again?
Sending positive thoughts your way!
Youre right skinny people do have back problems but they dont go home and start eating everything in site to make their back feel better. As an emotional over eater I need to stop lying to myself. Over weight and lack of exercise increases you chance of back pain by expotentionally. Glad to see yourself for being honest with yourself, its a step to stop the madness.
Congrats! You’ve held yourself accountable for your problem now you can move forward to living a better healthy life! When you have those back spasms one thing I recommend is going back and forth between ice and heat. It’s works well. I have a friend who use to have those issues. She’s much better now!
Don’t forget, you are doing something about it.
I had a moment the other night when I was looking at myself in the mirror and really didn’t like the way I looked in a particular outfit.
I stopped and reminded myself that in a month or so I will see a real difference, and that I am doing everything I can to change that fact.
Don’t allow the negative thoughts to take over, you are on your way.
I hope your back feels better soon.
oh, how i hear you! i have back troubles and have for years now. most recently i had a flare inthe summer and again the fall and i just knew my weight was effecting it. no one would say anything but that shame was yelling in my head. if you need some company at the pity party, let me know, and we’ll change it to an ice your back, walk, walk, walk, and take ibuprofin party.